We all long to meet our perfect partner in life, the person who fills every spiritual, emotional and physical need. Some people have succeeded in finding their perfect partner and are living the dream life, but for most of us the reality of ever finding that Mr/Ms perfect seems like a long lost dream.

It must be really tough. You must be the victim of the worst luck in the world that’s the reason your perfect partner hasn’t appeared in your life yet? Maybe you’ve decided that your perfect partner only exists in the movies and not out here in the real world? You’ve got it. They don’t exist anywhere except in your imagination and on movie screens.

The truth of the matter is that the reason your perfect partner hasn't appeared has nothing to do with your luck, good or bad, but everything to do with you and the fact that you are busy looking for a person that doesn't exist! You can't date with your eyes closed and some impossible dream in your head. You'll get so caught up in this whole exercise of dating that you forget to look for the qualities you seek!
You haven't met the person of your dreams because you aren't looking for the things that will make them close enough to perfect for you.

You are so confident that every person you have met could not give you what you wanted. But what was it that you wanted in the first place? Once you are sure of what you want, you will know exactly what to look for in your partner. What are the qualities that you feel are necessary in a person? What are the attributes you are willing to make a compromise on? Have you thought about all these?

Remember, that nobody on this earth is perfect. Everybody has faults…some are bigger than others. Some are faults you can overlook and some are faults that you couldn’t overlook on your best day even if they were the most beautiful, most sexy person on the face of the earth.

When you meet a person, remember, however hard you try to impress others, you cannot control their thought processes. Instead, it’s far better to concentrate on your needs and desires, and how much of what you need would be fulfilled if you dated this person

You can spend all your time searching for the perfect person, analyzing every part of their personality and never find what you are looking for. I’m not saying that you commit to the first person you meet, no, on the contrary, it’s good to have wonderful goals, as long as you know what those goals are. If you can clearly define what qualities your perfect partner will have, then you will have a better chance of meeting them. If you dreams and goals are just fantasy, then that’s what you’ll get.

Ronnie Blackstone
01/11/2010

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